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We know self-talk can help people’s self-control (e.g. “Don’t do it!”), and boost their morale (e.g. “Hang in there!”) in sporting situations. However, before now, no-one has investigated whether self-talk is more effective depending on whether you refer to yourself in the grammatical first person (i.e. “I can do it!”) or the second person (i.e. “You can do it?”).

Sanda Dolcos and her team first asked 95 psychology undergrads to imagine they were a character in a short story. Her study was published in the European Journal of Social Psychology. The character is faced with a choice , and the participants are asked to write down the advice they would give themselves in this role, to help make the choice. Crucially, half the participants were instructed to use the first-person “I” in their self-advice, the others to use the second-person “You”. Right after, the participants completed a series of anagrams. Those who’d given their fictional selves advice using “You” completed more anagrams than those who’d used the first person “I” (17.53 average completion rate vs. …

Narcissists may think they’d make for good bosses, but several studies show that their preoccupation with themselves hinders their performance.

The following is a summary of several research studies emphasizing the dysfunctional aspects of narcissists in leadership positions.

Study 1: Although narcissists have leadership-related qualities, such as confidence, authority and high self-esteem, their self-centeredness ultimately prevents them from partaking in the creative exchange of information and ideas, which is crucial in group decision-making situations, the researchers at the University of Amsterdam said.

The team divided 150 participants into groups of three, with one person in each group randomly assigned to be the group’s leader. The groups then had to choose a job candidate. Researchers shared 45 items of information about the candidates, with some of the tidbits disclosed to everyone in the group, and with each participant receiving one piece of information not shared with other group members. …

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A research study concludes that the foundations of leadership may be laid early in life, suggesting that our cognitive abilities as children strongly influence our odds of moving up the corporate ladder as adults.

Analyzing data from almost 17,000 working individuals in the UK collected in two major studies over a span of 4 decades, psychological scientists Michael Daly, Mark Egan, and Fionnuala O’Reilly of Stirling University found that high scores for cognitive abilities at age 10 dramatically improved the odds of becoming the boss by age 50.

“The results suggest that early individual differences in childhood general cognitive ability may profoundly shape trajectories of leadership across working life,” the researchers write in the journal Leadership Quarterly. …

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Did Pope Francis endorse Donald Trump? No. And yet, millions shared this story on social media, and many believed it. Why? The proliferation of fake news. What’s fake news? Stories that are presented in such a way that they appear to be legitimate “headlines” but are totally made up by groups trying to sell a point of view without citations or supporting evidence. In 2016, Edgar Welch walked into a Washington DC pizzeria and opened fire because he thought Democratic Presidential nominee Hillary Clinton was running a child sex trafficking ring there. A fake story “informed” him about the conspiracy. ABC News reports that in a text message to his girlfriend that day, Welch wrote he had been researching the “Pizzagate” conspiracy theory and it was making him “sick.” …

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People starting to plan for retirement or other big goals should pull out a calculator and multiply the years ahead by 365. Measuring time in days instead of months, or months instead of years, can make future events seem closer and thus more urgent, according to research published in Psychological Science.When units of time were manipulated to bring important events closer to the forefront psychologically, people reported that they should start to plan and save significantly earlier, even when future events were described as being tens of thousands of days away.

“This is a new way to think about reaching goals that does not require willpower and is not about having character or caring,” explains psychological scientist and lead researcher Daphna Oyserman of the University of Southern California. …

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The Christmas season can be a time of great joy and happiness for people. It can also be a time of sadness, depression, stress and loneliness for many people.

The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention’s Household Pulse Survey shows the highest percentage of adults who report symptoms of anxiety or depression are 18–29-year-olds. Between Sept. 30 and Oct. 12, the most recent dates available in the survey, 44.7% reported feelings of anxiety or depression.

The holidays can be stressful and on top of that, we’re dealing with a pandemic — which could cause even more tension, especially as we plan family gatherings. …

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Did you know what over 45,000,000 people search for happiness on GOOGLE monthly? And that’s just on the main search engine. This number could potentially be tripled if you take into consideration that happiness seekers might word the phrase differently. Some may search for ways to be happy or how to be happier. Others may take a different approach and look for ways to snap out of a bad mood or how to overcome the blues. Few subjects have been researched as the question of whether wealth leads to greater happiness. …

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Does one’s physical attractiveness have a positive or negative impact on life? Does it give you an advantage when it comes to finding a mate, getting good grades in school, getting a job or being more successful in life? Is beauty in the eye of the beholder? What does the research tell us? And while most of us would prefer a world where you are not judged solely by your appearance, should we admit the reality of that’s the way things are.

Is There a Definitive View of Beauty?

The dictionary defines beauty asthe quality or aggregate of qualities in a person or thing that gives pleasure to the senses or pleasurably exalts the mind or spirit.” …

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Here is a short list of what it’s like to live through the coronavirus: heightened feelings of anxiety, hopelessness brought on by social distancing and self-isolation; a 24-hour death toll to keep track of, life or death decisions facing health care workers; struggles to make rent; worries about keeping your job or maintaining your business; and, on top of all of that, the stress of whether you yourself or your loved ones might get sick.

These forms of anguish usher in a pandemic all its own — a relentless surge of mental health concerns of all varieties originating in this perfect recipe for anxiety, depression, and hopelessness. Trauma tends to be thought of as belated, after the fact, but it can also be prefatory: a suspended state of knowing that loved ones will die or suffer but not yet knowing who or when.In other words, even as some people weather the pandemic reasonably well, the need for mental health care like therapy has rarely been more pressing. …

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An executive gets unapologetic messages from colleagues on nights and weekends, including a notably demanding one on Easter Sunday. A web designer whose bedroom doubles as an office has to set an alarm to remind himself to eat during his non-stop workday. At vice president with four kids logs 13-hour days while attempting to juggle her parenting duties and her job.A tech support employee gets off of the 5th Zoom call of the day and collapses in bed, tired and drained.

During the COVID-19 pandemic, many people have shifted to remote and virtual work, which has impacted women and families the most. …

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